STRESSED or DESSERTS, your choice ?

Let me share with you today on an email I read about lately. STRESSED and DESSERTS.

There is a subtle correlation between the two, what is it relevant connection? It might not be obvious if you don’t read it the second time. The word STRESSED, if you read it from the right to left spells DESSERTS. Therefore, "STRESSED are just DESSERTS if you can turn around the situation."

What a coincident to the statement Light has made few weeks ago, “if you can’t resist it, take it”

I personally reckons that it really makes a huge difference when I look at the meanings of these two words plainly, just from the meanings: Initially when the word STRESSED come to mind, I envision tension, worry, anxiety and all the negative characteristics; but it magically became sweets, multi-flavored and multicolored delicious ice creams and tiramisu when I see the word DESSERTS.

Such a simple reversal of words totally turned my focus 180 degrees around to see things from another light.

There are lots of pressures and frustrations in life, but as long as long as we can make a switch, wisely, when we embrace these feelings, thus when our mindset is tuned, we find that we can look at all of these pressure and frustration from another angle. Our perception transforms the negative vibes to become the desserts in our life!

As a Chinese saying goes: "Life is like a bowl of rice, half sweet, half bitter, you have a choice of which side of the bowl you will start, with different ways of delivering the rice with your chopstick to your mouth, but certainly and eventually you will finished your bowl of rice regardless of whatsoever course of action you choose in between!”



The moral of the saying is that life, for all the sweet, bitter, sour or spicy is a journey of experience; and at the end of the journey you will have gone through all these! Below is the story I would like to share with you:

One fine day, a primary school teacher in the remote village asked her class, “Children, can you remember someone you hate?” Some of the children remained silent while others nodded vigorously. The teacher then issued to each person a empty bag and said: "Let’s play a game. Let us all now think of the person(s) in the past week that may have offended you, think about the bad things that he or she has done to you and go to the river bank after school to pick up a stone from the river bank, paste the name of the person on to the stone. Take a bigger stone if the offense is great, or else paste on a small stone if it is a minor offense”

“Take the bag to school everyday, will you?” the teacher reminded the students.

The students were all very interested and excited and sure enough everyone rushes to the river to look for stones after school.

Early the next morning, they have filled the bag with the cobblestones from the river bank and were happily discussing about it.

Days passed and they were still collecting their stone everyday and filling them into the bag. However some of them had almost filled the entire bag and it has become a burden to them. Finally, some students protested to their teacher that they are tired carrying all these stone with them. The teacher smile but said nothing. Immediately a student shouted "It is really tiring to load and carry the stones to and fro everyday to school!"

At this juncture, the teacher said with a smile: "So just put down all the stones, all that signifies the faults others have done to you!”

Some children were surprised when the teacher told them gently: "Learn to forgive faults, do not take it harshly inside your heart and do not carry it on your shoulders. As times goes on, no one could stand it..."

This group of students has learned a very valuable lesson in their life:
“Stones” that keep filling in the pocket will stay inside your heart. The hatred will deepen, thus the burden will be heavy.

I like the old saying: "Forgiving another's fault, accredits to our own glory."




We must learn when to let go wisely to feel free! STRESSED FREE!

Salt

p/s do you have a stone that written my name on it ? :)

Releasing the pressure inside, wisely and periodically, turn down uncontrolled stress !

I was talking to a friend of mine a few days ago. We chatted about almost everything, and I was asking him how was he fairing at work lately?

Surprisingly, (as some of us are jobless) he was telling me that he was very busy, so busy that he has been working almost 12 to 16 hours a day for the pass few months! And he still has to carry on for the next few months until the incoming inquiry for his company products slow down or there is an increase in the workforce in the office to lighten the burden.

I was curious and surprise!! How envious I am of his company, as the markets in general is not doing well!

He told me that he just changed to this new job and he is sort of being ‘programmed’ in a way that he needs to reply dozens of email a days and also to prepare proposal and quotations for all the incoming jobs inquiries (he wish he could) ASAP, beginning from the second day he was in the new job!

Unfortunately, that is not the end of the story; his direct superior was so busy that he received no coaching and guide from his boss and also because he is new to the job, the systems, the products; almost everything he was starting then, has to be done in an intensive on-job learning manner.

To add salt to the wound, the one and only senior colleague reporting to the same boss who was instructed to provide guidance and help did nothing to help, but made life difficult by simply pretending to help. Sounds familiar??

Fear on the new environment, worries of the quality and suitability of the proposals and relevancy of the quotations, concerns of his performance in the new job, and all other sorts of stresses keeps adding pressure!!

Wow, what a tragedy!!

However, I am truly astounded and impressed by his attitude reflected in the conversation that took place after:
We are not the hot tempered youngster as we were those days. Control your temper wisely. We are the ones who should take control of the anger and stress within, before our panic-stricken and mindless reaction take over that will turn out to be something regrettable soon after.

Release whatever the pressure building up inside you, before it explodes! Don’t you ever become a pressure vessel loading endlessly without a release valve in place! Release it every so often by whatsoever means that work for you; perhaps by taking a deep breath, a cool bath, a stroll in the park, a hearty laugh, a shouting contest with yourself, or many other methods to overcome the brainless stressing behaviors that might rule your life out!

When you without pressure, you will think wisely and well!

What a significant effect a release valve can do, so go find the valves in you. Will you?

Cheers...
Salt

Possibly a good way to relief built up Stress

Guys and gals, I'm not suggesting you try this, but it's possibly a real good way to relief some of the stream you've got inside....haha....



Light...out...

Cold-Call Sales-Stress

I don't know about you, but I've had my fair share of anxieties and stress over sale calls, particularly cold-calls, even over the phone.








To begin with, I'm an engineer by education and vocation, but eventually found myself to bore too easy with the life on a desk engineer, and soon defected to the "enemy" camp of sales/marketing and business. However, even before my "conversion", I knew in my heart that I would not LOVE sales and are not at all intrigued by going after sales and targets. I guess I'm just not even money motivated enough to chase after the commissions. So, why did I get into this job? Well, that's a long story for another day...

Recently, I had to once again engaged in cold calls to set appointments for visits to promote my company's services. I had the usual reluctance, mostly due to false expectations and anticipations...mostly negative and unreal fears. I mean, come on...what could anyone do to me over the phone?? Yet, I was still nervous and all worked up to make the calls and set the appointments.

However, thank God that it does pays to have experience. I listed what I needed to say and points that I needed to get through, particularly key words I needed to use to help me explain myself prior the making any sales call. This helped minimize the "ah..." and "umm..." and give me a little more confident in what I had to do.

So after a prayer and some calls later, to my delight I managed to secure a fair bit of appointments. All those fears and stresses amount to nothing. Wasted.
Not that I'm complaining...but I am reminded once again that with a little faith and preparation, I could actually minimize, if not eliminate stress from making sales calls in the future. If you ever encounter such similar problems, I hope my sharing would give you some ideas that will make it work for you as well....

Cheers....Light...Out.